Tuesday, April 20, 2010

Enjoy the Moment


Once you realize that the road is the goal and that you are always on the road, not to reach a goal, but to enjoy its beauty and its wisdom, life ceases to be a task and becomes natural and simple, in itself an ecstasy.

Sri Nisargadatta Maharaj, 1897-1981
Indian Spiritual Teacher

Monday, April 19, 2010

True Love

FROM TODAY'S DAILY OM:
The Real Thing

Love should feel good.
Relationships that leave you feeling depleted,
sad and making excuses are not based in love.

Often in our lives, we fall prey to the idea of a thing rather than actually experiencing the thing itself. We see this at play in our love lives and in the love lives of our friends, our family, and even fictional characters. The conceptualizing, depiction, and pursuit of true love are multimillion-dollar industries in the modern world. However, very little of what is offered actually leads us to an authentic experience of love. Moreover, as we grasp for what we think we want and fail to find it, we may suffer and bring suffering to others. When this is the case, when we suffer more than we feel healed, we can be fairly certain that what we have found is not love but something else.

When we feel anxious, excited, nervous, and thrilled, we are probably experiencing romance, not love. Romance can be a lot of fun as long as we do not try to make too much of it. If we try to make more of it than it is, the romance then becomes painful. Romance may lead to love, but it may also fade without blossoming into anything more than a flirtation. If we cling to it and try to make it more, we might find ourselves pining for a fantasy, or worse, stuck in a relationship that was never meant to last.

Real love is identifiable by the way it makes us feel. Love should feel good. There is a peaceful quality to an authentic experience of love that penetrates to our core, touching a part of ourselves that has always been there. True love activates this inner being, filling us with warmth and light. An authentic experience of love does not ask us to look a certain way, drive a certain car, or have a certain job. It takes us as we are, no changes required. When people truly love us, their love for us awakens our love for ourselves. They remind us that what we seek outside of ourselves is a mirror image of the lover within. In this way, true love never makes us feel needy or lacking or anxious. Instead, true love empowers us with its implicit message that we are, always have been, and always will be, made of love.

Sunday, April 18, 2010

Some Day My Prince Will Come

From my garden. When a tulip fell off its stem, I thought this little girl's lap the perfect place to set it. I bought her at Winterthur, in Delaware, on a visit there one summer. She sits in my side garden as a symbol of hopes and dreams, under a sprawling Linden Tree, surrounded by perennials and hostas of all kinds.

Winterthur, an American country estate, is the former home of Henry Francis du Pont (1880-1969), an avid antiques collector and horticulturist. In the early 20th century, H. F. du Pont and his father, Henry Algernon du Pont, designed Winterthur in the spirit of 18th- and19th-century European country houses.


Friday, April 16, 2010

My Hero

It's the birthday of the filmmaker and actor Charlie Chaplin, born in London (1889). He started out as a vaudeville actor in a comedy troupe. When Chaplin arrived in Hollywood, he was shocked to see how little rehearsal went into each movie. Hollywood directors at the time filmed each scene in a single take, refusing to waste money on extra film. Chaplin tried to get used to the Hollywood style, and he took all the jobs he could get, saving almost all the money he made. But he was disgusted at the quality of the movies.

The camera often wasn't pointed in the right direction to capture his movements, and many of his favorite moments ended up on the cutting room floor. At the end of five months, he asked the producer if he could direct his own movie, and he put up $1,500 of his own savings as a guarantee against losses.  That year, 1914, Chaplin directed, wrote, and starred in 16 films in six months. It was that year that he debuted his most famous character: the "little tramp," who's always beaten down by life, always the butt of the jokes, but who never gives up his optimism. The character made Chaplin a star, recognized around the world.

When I was a graduate student at UCLA, I took a course in the history of Charlie Chaplin It was taught by Professor Epstein (now deceased) who actually grew up next door to Chaplin in Beverly Hills (on Tower Drive, I believe.)  So the class not only saw all of Chaplin's films, including rare shorts that are now obsure or destroyed, but we also had the delightful privilege of hearing personal anecdotes and stories about Chaplin's comings and goings, guests and dalliances. 

Professor Epstein recounted how Chaplin kept to himself, for the most part, except when escorting a bevy of beauties (not all at once) to his house at all hours of the day and night.  Or how he wrote in the backyard or wandered his acreaged property in his pajamas.  Epstein was a boy at the time, at the height of Chaplin's popularity in the States.  Then came trouble with the House Un-American Activities Committee, all sorts of false allegations about Chaplin being a socialist (I think it was pure jealousy and envy, really) and his departure and exile to Switzerland.

A few years ago, I read an autobigography about Chaplin, & it said that shortly after they moved to Vevey, Chaplin sent his younger (by about 32 years) wife, Oona O'Neill, back to Beverly Hills to close up the house and withdraw his funds which she had sewn into the lining of her full-length mink coat. He was a dreamer, a director, a writer, and a creative genius, bar-none.  He was and is my hero and one of my favorite people -- as a story-teller, an artist and humanitarian of all times.

Monday, April 12, 2010

Beloved

Until one has loved an animal,
a part of one's soul remains unawakened.
--Anatole France


Thursday, April 8, 2010

Think Spring---Think New Beginnings

We are what we think.
All that we are arises with our thoughts.
With our thoughts, we make the world.

-Buddha

Sunday, April 4, 2010

HOPPY EASTER! HAPPY SPRING!

Sun shining brightly.  Balmy breezes.  Budding Blossoms.  Spring has Sprung.  Happy Easter!


Sweetie Sue and The Easter Bunny Wish You a Very
HOPPY EASTER!

The day begins with watching SUNDAY MORNING with Charles Osgood and is excellent, as always.  My favorite show on TV these days and has been for many years.  Dame Edna is on, as her show is closing on Broadway today, the muscial review with Michael Feinstein.  Too bad.  I'd hoped to catch it.  Now, I'll have to settle for this interview with "Barry Humphries"--- Dame Edna's alter-ego and impersonator. 

The interview was a stitch, and I found myself laughing out loud.  They showed Dame Edna, as herself, all decked out in rhinestones and glitter.  Then, as Barry Humphries, the man from Australia with a wife and four kids, who invented the "Dame" nearly 30 years ago.  He/she is hysterical, and I once went to see her perform live.  Had a great time and never forgot how truly entertaining the show was!  Catch it if you can.

After watching my show, I went back to my laptop to write and answer e-mails.  A lazy Easter morn but now need to get going to the Toledo Zoo and on with the day.  My thoughts are mixed, some happy, some melancholy.

I reflect on childhood Easters, when my Dad filled the dining room table with brightly colored Easter baskets for my two sisters and me.  Besides being filled with sweet treats, they said, "Love" and "Caring" and "You Matter."  And, we felt that and the magic that always comes with true love.

Now, many decades later, I still ride on those good feelings.  Know my parents loved me and that I was cherished.  Now, alone, in mid-life with no children or partner of my own, it feels lonely and kind of sad.  But I look around and see many furry friends and feel their love, too.  My pup and kits are meaningful and magical to me in other ways than the flesh--yet their hearts are in sync with mine, their affections ever-present, their companionship ever unconditional and never wavering.  Always there for me and I, for them.

Time to get on with the day.  Will be back at day's end to report back on how everything went and how I'm feeling.  Until then . . .

Now, I'm back, after a successful drive to Toledo Zoo.  Had mild weather, sunny skies and light traffic there and back.  No complaints.  Took about 230 pics and edited down to about 100 and still editing.  Loved the bird house, especially, and will post some of my best shots below. 


Felt happy to be at the zoo except for a few crying kids and tired parents who snapped at their little tykes and caused more pain--to everyone, me included.  Any harse words or reprimands causes a ripple effect of bad vibes all the way around.  Made me wince and want to run away.  Then, I thought of the poor child and how unhappy he felt at that time.  And, something in me made me want to stay close by, even though I couldn't "do" anything or say anything tp his parents.  But, I thought just my presence of calm might vibrate some good vibes their way.  I just feel very badly for kids with intolerant parents who yell at them in public and, lord knnows, what they say/do in private.  Tread lightly.  Be kind.


Now, for a look at my "catches of the day"  ENJOY!